Monday, July 30, 2012

relationships.


This is probably one of the biggest things I get asked about when going to college. 

"What are you and Drew going to do when you go away?"

And I respond with a, "Well, I'm sure we'll be fine, I really am not worrying about it."

Want to know the truth? I am honestly not worried about it.

Drew is my first and only boyfriend. Of 4 years. I know, crazy right? I always thought I was going to date around and maybe gain some experience in high school but I met a wonderful guy and we just seemed to click and I blinked my eyes and we have been dating for 4 freakin' years. 


That's longer than some people wait to get married and I have been with this annoying, silly, loving man for that long.

I really do not like the fact that I was not able to date around or have that type of "fun" but I do not regret in anyway meeting drew. I believe that we have had more fun together than what I would have dating a bunch of boys. I figure that I am going to stay with drew as long as we are happy. 

People ask if I think we will last, I respond by saying if things keep going the way they are going, probably. But I'm not planning my marriage with him, I'm not picking out the name of my children because I understand that the both of us have a lot of growing to do. We can either grow together or grow apart. That's the reality of things. 

So many people in my small town think if you are dating someone you are automatically thinking of marriage. There are SO MANY people in Drew's class that are engaged or already married. Mind you they are 19/20/21. And though i respect their decisions, part of me wonders if they are only getting married for the hype. I'm sure they love each other, but I don't think they understand that they are all still so young, they have no idea where their lives are going to take them. Then again I could be entirely mistaken. I know plenty of high school sweethearts that have lasted. I guess well find out in the future. 


But the thing with Drew and I is that we are not putting all of our eggs in one basket. We are going to stay together as long as we are happy together, as long as we have fun with each other, I want to be with him because I want to be with him, not because I feel like I have to. 

It'll be hard to not see him as often, sure, but I feel like it will help us find each other and grow ourselves. Also I feel like it'll make our relationship stronger. He'll probably come see me On a couple of weekends. It'll be fine. We will skype, text, talk. It's not like I'm going to completely be away from him.

So no. I do not worry about us. 

3 comments:

  1. You guys are soo cute together!! Personally, I have decided not to date until I'm in college, which for me will be in 2 years. :)

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    Manda
    http://meandjesus-amanda.blogspot.com

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  2. might i say, this is the most romantic post i've ever read. 4 years is amazing indeed, i've never dated a guy that long. my current relationship is 1,5 years old. i completely get what you mean by not rushing marriage. it's somewhat more difficult for us in the eastern culture i think, marriage is such a must down here, it's hard for the community to not trash talk about a couple, unmarried, yet staying under one roof. if i must be honest with you, i love my boyfriend too but am not thinking about marriage, at all. relationship is about love, marriage is about a whole other huge thing. i personally believe you don't have to settle down in a marriage because what's important is how it really is between you two. but i guess very few people think so especially here where i live. oh pressure. sorry for my blabbers though, hahaha. for the record, you and drew really look adorable together. distance might be hard but you know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. i'm fully supportive of this relationship!! :)



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    1. Wynne, that was the sweetest comment I have ever received. Thank you girl.

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